First Date Behavior + Go To Date Night Look

Before February began, I did a quick and informal survey on Instagram to see what kind of content people wanted to see more of; date night looks was a popular response. So today, I’m sharing my first date “uniform” plus some real talk about the first date behavior I’m always on the look out for.

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First Date Behavior + Go To Date Night Look | My Go To Date Pant

Jeans really are my go to move; my preferred first date outfit is laidback, effortless, and not trying to hard. Realistically, this can seem intimidating to put together! I mean you want to look chic but not show up in a wedding dress right? For me, I always reach for jeans: white, distressed, black, knee slits, boyfriend {just don’t like announce that to him yet ;)}

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First Date Behavior + Go To Date Night Look | The Going Out Top

The top I choose always depends on what the first date entails. I’m kind of weird, but I hate going to dinner on a first date, just in case things go south or he’s a huge creep. {If you’re into having dinner on the first date, jeans may not be appropriate!} Sometimes I’ll reach for a sweater, a casual graphic tee under a utility jacket, but usually I pick out a cute blouse! While these are frequently called “going out tops,” I rarely go out so these are just dressier tops in my mind. While this one has the sheer factor that makes it a no go for the office, a lot of my business casual appropriate shirts can be worn day to night and work for date night!

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First Date Behavior + Go To Date Night Look | Must Have Accessory

One of the things that I force myself to do on a first date is NOT look at my phone. I’ll be real with y’all; I’m horrible about checking my phone when I’m out with friends & while most of my friends and fam get that it’s part of my work as a blogger and influencer. But when I’m meeting someone new, I try to make sure I wear a watch so that I don’t have the temptation to grab my phone to check the time. I hold my dates to the same standard, if a guy is constantly checking his phone on the first date, I assume he’s not super interested in me.

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First Date Behavior + Go To Date Night Look | My First Date Strategy

Being completely honest, first dates kind of stress me out. So much unknown: what if the person isn’t as interesting as you were hoping, will you get stuck somewhere, what if they’re not into you? It’s all just really nerve racking in the beginning. Over time, I’ve learned to just take things moment by moment and not stress {as much} over what is really just meeting someone for the first time.

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First Date Behavior + Go To Date Night Look | Know What to Look For and What to Avoid

I do, however, have some behavior that I always keep an eye out for. My {somewhat} unpopular opinion is that sometimes you will know on the first date that you don’t want to out with someone again. I hear a lot of my friends say things like, “you don’t really know until date two or three,” “everyone’s nervous on a first date,” and while these can be true, for me there’s some signs to look for.

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First Date Behavior + Go To Date Night Look | Do They Make Eye Contact?

This may seem like such a nitpicky thing, but I’ve been on first dates where the guy has been so nervous {or maybe I’ve been off-putting LOL} that they avoid eye contact. While I sympathize and relate to being nervous; it’s one of those small things that for me IS a big deal.

While, I don’t want to date a guy that’s so suave that he’s borderline slimy, I always joke that I don’t want to date someone that’s as nervous as I am. Making eye contact isn’t just a behavior you should practice on dates either; it’s important at job interviews, networking events, and beyond.

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First Date Behavior + Go To Date Night Look | How Do They Treat Other People?

How someone treats service staff, cashiers, etc. says a lot to me about their values and who they are as a person. If they don’t have the basic decency to be polite to a server, I pretty much know that this isn’t someone I want to continue seeing.

First Date Behavior + Go To Date Night Look | The First Date from Hell

While in college, I went on a date with a guy where he accidentally locked himself out of his house. Totally not a big deal, but his demeanor, attitude, and words towards the locksmith that came out, on a Sunday mind you, really made me say, “This is not someone I ever want to go out with again.” Someone that can’t treat others with respect likely won’t treat me with respect + dating someone that’s respectful is SO important to me.

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First Date Behavior + Go To Date Night Look | How Do They Present Themselves?

First impressions are important! If a guy shows up and it’s evident that he didn’t put some time or effort into getting ready, I’m annoyed. Yes, I always try to present myself well when meeting someone for the first time. In my mind, being well- dressed and practicing good hygiene is a form of good manners. Not saying, my guy needs to show up in a tuxedo ready for the red carpet, but some noticeable effort is appreciated as nailing my “no makeup” makeup look takes longer than I’d like to admit.

First Date Behavior + Go To Date Night Look | Your Turn!

Let me know in the comments what first date behavior is a total game changer, in the worst way, for you!

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